Biddy Behavior

Biddy: A dumb ass bitch, usually 18 or younger. Picture it: short shorts, Ugg boots, string straight hair and mad eye makeup for a high school frosh. They go out at night looking for the party so they can get shitty on Mike’s Hard, cheap wine, or other people’s alcohol. They have a bun on the top of their head as if they rolled out of bed looking like a pre-pubescent prostitute. Being a biddy means being dumb is the cool thing to do.
- Urban Dictionary

My friend called me a biddy yesterday.

I think it goes without saying that I am obviously not a biddy. I know I am several things, but a biddy? No freakin’ way.

Honestly? If I were a biddy, I would own up to it. I own up to all the other not-so-flattering traits I have, so I wouldn’t deny being a biddy if it were true. But as much as I like to flirt and drink and dance when I go out, I’m classy about it. I definitely do not demonstrate any type of biddy behavior. I don’t get trashed, I don’t depend on other people to take care of me (and consequently ruining their night), I don’t get together with multiple guys in one night… in short, I don’t do anything stupid.

What bothers me most about being called a biddy is that it stemmed from a conversation about what my friend and I did last weekend. Obviously the weekend involved going out, and we were trading stories as we didn’t go out together. And our stories, despite experiencing them separately, pretty much amounted to the same thing: going out with friends, drinking, dancing, and meeting people. But because I am the girl, I was the one that got judged for my actions last weekend even though his weekend experience was essentially parallel to mine!

I hate how these double standards exist with guys and girls. They irritate me in any context, but they are especially annoying in social and romantic contexts. There are definitely biddies in this world (both of the male and female variety¹), but just because I am a girl who likes to go out does not automatically make me a dumb biddy. Nor do I exhibit biddy behavior at any point in time!

1. I can’t think of the guy equivalent for the term “biddy.” Is there one? Or do guys just get called biddies too? [↩]

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